How to Pick Up Girls in Bars and Nightclubs
Posted on February 8, 2008
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For a lot of men, it is a complete mystery. Why do women flock to these clubs, looking for men, but then refuse to give them any consideration when approached. It is obvious that they came to the club in hopes of finding a man, but when push comes to shove they are standoffish and unwilling to give a guy a chance. One would think that a bar or nightclub would be the perfect situation to find a woman. After all, the mood is right the booze is flowing and the music is pounding…All of the right elements are there. It should be the “perfect storm” of finding a partner for the evening. Instead, it often ends in complete frustration.
It doesn’t have to be that way. If you can understand why women behave the way they do, you can overcome the barriers that confront other guys at the bar and nightclub. You can take advantage of the situation and pick up women at the clubs easily.
What is the trick? The trick is understanding why women don’t go for other men’s attempts to pick them up. Instead of simply trying to devise a better line or technique based on trying to “one-up” a series of failures, the smart man will examine the motivations that underlie a woman’s behavior. What prevents a girl from allowing herself to be picked up at the club? It could be a lot of things, but quite often a girl puts up a barrier to being picked up because of two factors.
First, is the fear of sluttiness. Regardless of how much times have changed in society there is still a stigma attached with being “easy.” Women don’t want to appear to be easy to their friends, acquaintances or to you.
Second, is the fear of men. Women want men, but they can fear us, too. Let’s be honest, there are a lot of guys out there who give the rest of us a bad name. I am not just talking about the attackers and serial killers out there (although those types of things do make women more cautious, too). I am also talking to all of the guys who picked up a girl and then turned the rest of the night into a complete disaster. Women hear of these guys and it makes them think twice, if not three times, about allowing themselves to be picked up.
So, the trick for the successful pick-up artist is to overcome these two concerns. As long as you can conquer these two areas of fear, you can improve your odds on the club scene considerably. Sure, in some cases you might encounter some other problem or barrier to picking up a woman, but overall your success rate will shoot through the roof if you can overcome those two areas of fear.
Instead of just working on a better set of lines, it is then essential to work on a strategy that avoids triggering a woman’s fears. Depending on a particular man’s skills and approach, there are thousands of ways to do this. Here are some examples:
You can overcome a girl’s fear of being perceived as a slut by expressing your desire to take her home as something other than a mere invitation to sex. If done correctly, she will understand what is really afoot, but will be willing to play along in order to feel she has behaved “properly.” A good pick-up artist will be able to communicate on another level that he ulterior motive is being offered for the very purpose of protecting her reputation.
You may be able to overcome a woman’ fear that they are playing with fire by casting yourself as a genuinely good and safe person. Let her understand that there is more to you than a very strong sex drive and give her reasons to trust you, instead of merely hoping her appetites are strong enough to overcome her fears.
By isolating the reasons why other men’s attempts don’t work and by then devising a pick-up strategy that solves those problems, you can improve your odds at the bar or nightclub considerably. There are very few places populated by a slew of attractive dancing women who are out looking for men. You should be able to take advantage of those situations instead of floundering in them. By understanding why other pick-up techniques don’t work, you can become a master of the nightclub score.
Jack Rock
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Developing Confidence Around Women Quickly and Easily
Posted on December 21, 2007
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Everyone knows that a healthy dose of confidence can make the difference between nights of romance with gorgeous women and nights at home alone watching DVDs with take out food. If you don’t have the confidence to ask a woman out, you are left in the unenviable position of having to wait for her to come to you. Admittedly, more women are becoming slightly more aggressive when it comes to approaching guys, but for the most part if you want to get a date you are going to need to approach the woman.
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You have to be confident. That is not a revolutionary new observation. It’s also easy to say. The real question about confidence is not whether or not it’s necessary and valuable (it is). The real issue is how to become confident.
Becoming confident in oneself can be a little challenging. After all, many men have long histories of being shy or lacking confidence. Changing long-held behavior patterns can pose something of a challenge. A complete introvert is unlikely to read a single article and emerge as a complete extrovert. However, there are things you can do quickly and easily that will encourage you to become more confident. These simple tasks are well worth the effort and can help you to become a winner with women.
First, it is important that you demystify your lack of confidence. By stripping the situation to bare bones, you will learn more about why you tend to lack self-confidence, which is the first step to become more confident. Usually, if one really probes the issue of low self-confidence, they discover that the greatest roadblock is fear.
All of us have fears and the fear of rejection is high up on many of our lists. This fear of being turned away can lead many of us to stop acting in a confident manner. We understand that self-confidence leads to interaction and that interaction can lead to real winning relationships, but we also recognize that interaction creates an opportunity for a woman to “shoot us down,” so we begin to tame our behavior. Our lack of confidence, when you get right down to it, is actually a manifestation of fear.
The best way to conquer this fear is by examining it objectively. By looking at the matter from an objective point of view, we will often discover the irrationality of our emotions. When we see how bankrupt our fears really are, it is easier to defeat them. Ask yourself, “ what is the worst that can really happen if I appear more confident around women?” Consider your answer carefully and honestly. You will probably find that you fear rejection and embarrassment.
Now, consider whether or not the negative results of that kind of rejection or embarrassment outweigh the potential advantages of encountering the woman of your dreams. Consider the relationship you really want and compare its value to the cost of some potential rejection. If you approach the problem with any level of intellectual honesty, you are sure to conclude that the fears holding your confidence down are entirely misplaced.
So, understanding that your lack of confidence is motivated by irrational fears, you need to take the next step. You now understand that you should change your behavior and that the benefits of doing so far outweigh any minor risk involved. Nonetheless, changing behavioral patterns can take some time and practice. You cannot quickly and easily change your whole way of behaving. You can, however, do some quick and easy things that will significantly contribute to become more confident.
The old adage “practice makes perfect” holds true when it comes to women and confidence. We truly do become more comfortable and talented at approaching women simply by practicing doing it. For someone who has long suffered from a lack of confidence, it is probably wise to practice interacting with women in “smaller doses.” Instead of trying immediately for a pick up, simply work on interacting with women in social situations. Get into a short conversation with the girl in the check out line. Hold open a door for a girl and say “good afternoon.” Quick and easy practices with interaction can help you to eventually conquer a lack of confidence.
With a bit of practice, first starting with small steps and gradually growing, you can develop a great deal of confidence. Along the way you may feel a bit nervous—this is normal as you conquer failed old behaviors. It is also easy to combat by reminding yourself of the irrationality of your fears and the huge benefits of becoming a more self-confident man.
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How Any Man Can Get a Beautiful Girl
Posted on November 27, 2007
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Every man, whether he is “male model handsome” or just downright homely, shares one objective: They want to get a beautiful girl. Although the handsome stud probably has an advantage over the rest of us, it is possible for anyone to capture the attentions of a real beauty.
We see it every day—the mismatched couple that reminds us that anyone can snag a hotty. You will see a skinny geeky fellow escorting a blonde bombshell to dinner. You might spot he old guy with gray hair and a gut who has his arm around a sexy younger woman. Then, you might encounter the chubby oaf with a perky little hotty at his side. These guys, and you see them every day, prove that it is possible for anyone to get beautiful girls.
The question, of course, remains: How do you do it?
Getting beautiful girls is possible for any man when you have an understanding of what really leads women to men. Every relationship is based on the idea that the other half of the couple can meet unsatisfied needs on the part of the other half. We all have longings and a relationship fills those voids. A woman who needs more humor in her life may be instinctively drawn to a funny fellow, regardless of his overall geekiness. A gal who is looking for financial security may overlook that graying hair and fall for an older guy.
The trick, then, is to determine what needs you can fulfill for others and to then put yourself in situations where you are likely to encounter women who will be appreciative of those traits. What are your strengths? Those qualities are likely to be the very attractors that allow you to score with a beautiful girl.
There is a popular misconception that beautiful girls exist in some sort of vacuum, divorced from the rest of the world. In reality, these women are full-featured human beings with interests, desires and needs. Just like men, the scope of their interests is infinite and diverse. It is true that some particular subjects are likely to be of less interest to women in general (for instance, there are probably only a handful of gorgeous babes who are looking for a man with broad knowledge of sewer maintenance), but almost any strength you may have can be of potential interest to the ladies.
Take for an example a rather unspectacular man who happens to have a strong interest in jazz music. He may not be much to look at and he may not be particularly wealthy. Nonetheless, he can leverage his particular area of interest into finding a gorgeous woman. By putting himself in situations with others who share his love of jazz, he will likely find a beautiful female with whom he can “hit it off.”
Her interest and appreciation of the same subject matter can make him attractive to her, despite his aforementioned limitations. She doesn’t just see an average guy with an old car. Instead, she sees someone who shares a passion and who is knowledgeable in a subject of interest to her. Other guys she has met—even those who are a bit more handsome and have more cash in their wallets—may not have been able to fulfill that desire for someone who shares her love and appreciation for jazz music.
Other examples abound. There are women looking for someone who will be genuinely supportive of their careers. Others may be looking for someone who can add a dimension of excitement to their lives. There are beautiful women of all sorts with a variety of unmet needs. The key to landing one of these ladies is finding the ones to whom you can be of assistance. When you are positioned to meet a beauty’s needs and then take the step to put yourself around such women, the rest can take care of itself.
Instead of shaking your head in dismay the next time you see an apparent “average Joe” walking arm and arm with a supermodel quality babe, instead consider your strengths and how to exploit them on the dating market. Relationships are forged when needs are met. Find the women who need what you have to offer and you, too, can enjoy the company of a beautiful girl
Getting Interested Women to Approach You
Posted on September 9, 2007
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Sure, overall men are still more likely to approach women than vice versa. Although society and the dating scene are changing every day, women are still a little less likely to be “the aggressor” when it comes to pursuing relationships. However, there is a significant and growing percentage of women who are willing to make the first move.
One of the hardest things about finding dates is the process of tracking women down and making the first move. If a woman comes to you, the process is nearly effortless. That makes women who will approach a man on their own accord particularly interesting. Those men who may tend a bit toward the shy end of the personality spectrum see a great deal of advantage in this situation and would love to become the targets of these “women on the prowl.”
Just like every man is looking for something a little different when going after women, you can expect women who are looking for men to have a pretty diverse outlook, too. As such, there is no foolproof plan that will guarantee any woman will approach you. There are just too many different possibilities to have a perfect “one size fits all” plan. The basics of seduction, of course, remain intact in these situations. You must be clean, well groomed and should exude some self-assurance. However, there are a few things you can do that will dramatically increase your chances of being approached by a woman.
Be Interesting
Interest is contagious. Interesting people attract interest from others. If you are a visibly (or audibly) interesting person, women are more likely to take notice and to approach you. If, on the other hand, you virtually disappear into the woodwork and are non-descript, you are not likely to be approached by any women. There are an infinite number of ways to make yourself stand out from the crowd a bit. Clothing options, hairstyles, and behaviors can all separate you from the pack. Of course, you want your approach to distinguish you while not branding you an outcast. You can choose to be different, but you definitely don’t want to be so different that you appear freakish.
One of the best ways to be interesting is to be interested. Choose events and activities to attend that actually appeal to you and will give you a chance to truly be interested in what you doing. Those who are involved and interested are magnetic. Those who seem bored, on the other hand, seem boring and tend to be overlooked.
Find the Right Spots
The idea that women will approach you is an alluring one. It can also be an unlikely one in many situations. Some social situations can really discourage women from making the first move. If you are in such a context, you need to reconsider waiting for her and make the move yourself. Every situation can be different, of course, but some places are more inviting to women and are more likely to attract the kind of self-assured woman who may choose to approach you.
You can assess whether or not a situation is likely to encourage women approaching men by keeping your eyes open and observing interactions between the people there. If, after some observation, you don’t notice any women approaching men you may not be in a situation that will encourage that kind of activity. If you are looking for a woman to come after you, it may then be time to reconsider where you are hanging out!
Again, there is no simple recipe that insures women will approach you. Of course, all of the basics of getting women apply in these circumstances. You need to be clean, well groomed and to effuse a sense of confidence. Attraction, after all, is attraction regardless of who is on the offensive.
However, there are two things you can do to dramatically increase the likelihood of being approached by a woman. You have to put yourself into the right position and you have to make yourself stand out as interesting. If you complete those two tasks, you are far more likely to find yourself the target of a woman’s attention.
Seduction: Remember the Basics
Posted on July 24, 2007
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There are a lot of seduction techniques available for study. Many of them require the development of new skill sets, mastery of formulaic approaches, and a scripted series of responses. Some of these techniques, when used correctly can produce truly amazing results. There is a lot of hype surrounding seduction techniques, but many of them really do work well and can allow you to get beautiful women regardless of your age or appearance.
However, the study of these techniques can draw us into a focus on methodology that might result in losing track of some of the most basic attributes of the successful seducer. No matter what system you decide to use in order to attract spectacular women, there are some basics that must first become second nature to you. By reiterating some of these incredibly simple characteristics of the successful seducer, it is hoped that you will be able to implement your seduction strategy from a strong basis.
Three of the basics are so incredibly simple it almost seems foolish, at first glance, to even bother mentioning them. However, we see men who time and time again lose track of the fundamentals as their mind focuses on following a particular seduction strategy.
First, remember to smile. The best-planned approach in the world will collapse if the guy implementing it seems unapproachable or unfriendly. An open smile is inviting to a woman and ups your charisma considerably. People who smile are perceived as self-confident, trustworthy and fun to be around—all traits that make your chore as a seducer that much easier. A pleasant smile will set a woman at ease and make you seem less threatening and more interesting. You may be trying to remember if you are at a point where you should neg a girl at that particular moment or not, but as your mind tries to recall exactly what the strategy dictates you do next, remember to smile.
Second, make eye contact. When we are preoccupied, it is easy to forget to make eye contact with the target of our seduction. Although we may be heightening our senses to pick up on non-verbal cues or simply plotting how to direct a conversation, we cannot allow our thought process to distract us from the very basic need to make quality eye contact. Eye contact allows a woman to access you as a real person and shows her that you are confident in yourself and present in the moment. If you let eye contact slip, it can only make seduction more difficult.
Third, speak clearly. Although seduction is not the equivalent of a public speaking course, it is necessary to speak clearly. Those who mumble or quickly fumble through their words are perceived as insecure and often as less than intelligent. No matter what you are saying, say it clearly. Seduction techniques are, in large measure, premised on your ability to verbally communicate. If your communication is unclear, you will have a hard time maximizing the value of your seduction strategy.
Consider a man armed with the ultimate seduction strategy firmly in mind. He knows just what to say and when to say it. The plan is a proven winner and he knows that others who have followed it have had tremendous success in landing beautiful women on a regular basis.
Now, imagine this man approaches the prospect with a grim facial expression and begins following the book perfectly. However, throughout the process he fails to look the girl in the eyes regularly and she has to occasionally ask him to repeat himself as he mumbles too lightly to be heard over the surrounding noise.
Even though this man may have followed the “book” to a tee and conducted himself in perfect uniformity with the planned strategy, he is still unlikely to emerge from the interaction with his prospect in tow. In fact, he will probably fail to even get the girl’s phone number.
You see, although his mastery of advanced seduction techniques was strong, his failure to remember the three most basic aspects of any seduction doomed his effort to failure. The next time you decide to put your learning to the test, it is important to remember everything you have learned. A prerequisite to make those skills produce results, however, is to also manage the basics correctly.
If you cannot smile, make eye contact and speak clearly, no mastermind seducer’s plan can save you. You simply must keep the basics in mind for any technique to offer any real hope of landing the perfect woman.
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Welcome To The SeductionGirl.com Blog
Posted on July 24, 2007
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Hey There,
This is the very first post for our new seduction blog. Make sure and read all the articles on our site.
I will be posting new seduction tips and articles here a couple of times a week so make sure and come back here often.
The Seduction Jerk