How to Pick Up Girls in Bars
and Nightclubs
For
a lot of men, it is a complete mystery. Why
do women flock to these clubs, looking for men, but then refuse
to give them any consideration when approached.
It is obvious that they came to the club in hopes of finding
a man, but when push comes to shove they are standoffish and unwilling
to give a guy a chance. One would think that a bar or nightclub would
be the perfect situation to find a woman.
After all, the mood is right the booze is flowing and the
music is pounding…All of the right elements are there.
It should be the “perfect storm” of finding a partner for
the evening. Instead, it often ends in complete frustration.
It
doesn’t have to be that way. If
you can understand why women behave the way they do, you can overcome
the barriers that confront other guys at the bar and nightclub.
You can take advantage of the situation and pick up women
at the clubs easily.
What
is the trick? The trick
is understanding why women don’t go for other men’s attempts to
pick them up. Instead of simply trying to devise a better
line or technique based on trying to “one-up” a series of failures,
the smart man will examine the motivations that underlie a woman’s
behavior. What prevents a girl from allowing herself to
be picked up at the club? It
could be a lot of things, but quite often a girl puts up a barrier
to being picked up because of two factors.
First,
is the fear of sluttiness. Regardless
of how much times have changed in society there is still a stigma
attached with being “easy.” Women
don’t want to appear to be easy to their friends, acquaintances
or to you.
Second,
is the fear of men. Women
want men, but they can fear us, too.
Let’s be honest, there are a lot of guys out there who
give the rest of us a bad name. I am not just talking about the attackers and
serial killers out there (although those types of things do make
women more cautious, too). I
am also talking to all of the guys who picked up a girl and then
turned the rest of the night into a complete disaster.
Women hear of these guys and it makes them think twice,
if not three times, about allowing themselves to be picked up.
So,
the trick for the successful pick-up artist is to overcome these
two concerns. As long as you can conquer these two areas of
fear, you can improve your odds on the club scene considerably. Sure, in some cases you might encounter some
other problem or barrier to picking up a woman, but overall your
success rate will shoot through the roof if you can overcome those
two areas of fear.
Instead of just working on a better set of lines, it is then essential
to work on a strategy that avoids triggering a woman’s fears. Depending on a particular man’s skills and approach,
there are thousands of ways to do this. Here are some examples:
You
can overcome a girl’s fear of being perceived as a slut by expressing
your desire to take her home as something other than a mere invitation
to sex. If done correctly, she will understand what
is really afoot, but will be willing to play along in order to
feel she has behaved “properly.”
A good pick-up artist will be able to communicate on another
level that he ulterior motive is being offered for the very purpose
of protecting her reputation.
You
may be able to overcome a woman’ fear that they are playing with
fire by casting yourself as a genuinely good and safe person.
Let her understand that there is more to you than a very
strong sex drive and give her reasons to trust you, instead of
merely hoping her appetites are strong enough to overcome her
fears.
By
isolating the reasons why other men’s attempts don’t work and
by then devising a pick-up strategy that solves those problems,
you can improve your odds at the bar or nightclub considerably.
There are very few places populated by a slew of attractive
dancing women who are out looking for men.
You should be able to take advantage of those situations
instead of floundering in them. By understanding why other pick-up techniques
don’t work, you can become a master of the nightclub score.