Don’t
Risk Over-Targeting
Men,
they say, have a one-track mind.
Usually this truism is uttered when discussing the seemingly
infinite male sex drive, and it may very well contain a pretty
large nugget of truth. However, men risk having a one-track mind in
other areas, as well. This
tendency to focus on only one potential thing or outcome presents
a substantial risk to those who are seeking to master the skills
of seduction. One instance of the male predilection toward
one-track thinking that can be particularly harmful to the seduction
game can be referred to as “over-targeting.”
Over-targeting
is a common pitfall experienced by men seeking beautiful women. A man may enter a room, club or situation and
spy a particular prospect in which they are very interested. They see a girl with just the right look for
them or some other quality they cannot pinpoint but to which they
are particularly attracted. They
notice the woman and immediately set their targets on her.
As
the night progresses, the man makes his move.
His advances may be met with a lukewarm reception or rebuffed
completely, yet he continues to push onward.
Hours later, his continued efforts still fail to pay any
real dividend. The woman is simply not interested in him, for
whatever reason, despite his best use of the seduction tips and
techniques he has learned. Even
when it becomes clear to anyone else who has even paid the scenario
scant attention, he may deem it necessary to continue his efforts,
fruitlessly. The night
ends in frustration and with a phone number that probably rings
an abandoned payphone in front of a factory.
The
man in question found himself falling victim to over-targeting. He made a single choice for the night and poured
all of his efforts into landing that one particular beautiful
woman. Despite a great deal of hard work and a lot
of time, he came up empty handed and facing another night alone.
Had
he noticed the other women there, however, things may have turned
out differently. Suppose he had been able to quickly recognize
that his best efforts were not producing gains and had set his
sights on another attractive woman?
He may have been able to adjust his course, find another
target for his seductive techniques and left the situation with
hotty at his side. By being so focused on his initial target, he
was unable to redirect his attentions or to notice that other
alternatives were all around him.
Men
often enter situations where they plan to ply their seductive
trade and fall victim to this problem.
They operate as if they are wearing blinders and become
completely unaware of the hot blonde with the great legs who entered
the room ten minutes after they acquired their initial target
and approached her. They
fail to recognize that they do have real alternatives to their
initial prospect and continue to expend their best seductive efforts
in a no-win situation.
Think
of the last time you made a move on a girl and continued to try
to work her for an extended period of time even though, in hindsight,
you realize you should have seen a failure was imminent.
What did you miss out on while you were wasting your time?
Odds are, you answered that with a quizzical look and a
hunch of the shoulders. You
probably have no idea what opportunities you may have missed because
you yourself fell victim to over-targeting.
It
is critical to give your virtually undivided attention to the
woman you are attempting to seduce.
Even at those times when you need to appear nonchalant
you will be keeping a close eye on your prospect. However, it is important to retain some level
of awareness at the same time.
You need to know whether there are other potential women
in whom you could be interested.
You need to mentally process that information along with
assessing your odds of success with your primary target so you
can make an informed decision as to when to set your aim elsewhere.
Men
tend to be stubborn. Once
we get an idea, we tend to stick with it until the bitter end.
We don’t like to surrender and we hate to admit defeat. However, there are times when a retreat really
does make strategic sense. If
we can avoid over-targeting, it expands our array of options considerably
and multiplies our chances for seduction success.