Is Metrosexuality a Prerequisite to Seduction
Success
Many
men believe they must really put a great deal of effort into their
appearance, grooming and attire in order to succeed with women.
The push for men to focus on their personal appearance
to the point of becoming downright vain is endemic to the seduction
literature. You have probably seen the recommendations elsewhere.
Seduction experts tell you to consider getting a manicure
or to spend your hard-earned dollars in special salons in order
to get your hair done just right. I have even seen one expert advocate the use
of particular hair care products!
The
term “metrosexuality” was coined to refer to men who have a strong
interest in their personal appearance and who are apt to take
great pains to see to it that they are presenting themselves in
the most attractive way possible. A metrosexual will make sure they are sporting
the latest fashions and are using designer hygiene products. If you look at the seduction hints and suggestions
made by many people, you have probably concluded that you will
have to join the ranks of the metrosexuals if you hope to have
any success with hot women.
Please
reconsider before you book an appointment at the nail salon. The metrosexual outlook on life is not a prerequisite
for successful seduction. It
is entirely possible to be a traditional male in many respects
and still get women. You
don’t need style advice or a personal hairdresser in order to
score with hot women. You can do just fine with off-the-rack outfits
and a barbershop. Metrosexuality
is not necessary.
A
brief disclaimer may be in order for those who have adopted and
enjoy the metrosexual lifestyle.
If you enjoy picking out just the right bronzing agent
or having someone whittle at your toenails, feel free to do so.
If this kind of behavior is consistent with who you truly
are at your core, don’t let anyone dissuade you from continuing.
Most
of us, however, would only consider bearing these kind of things
because of the promise of eventual sex for those who play along. Most men who take on a metrosexual bent do so
purely in hopes of getting more women.
Fortunately they do not need to do so.
In fact, it could be argued that metrosexual men are less
likely to be successful seducers than those of us who eschew this
feminine behavior.
Why
would a large dose of vanity and a heaping helping of hair care
product keep women away? There are a few reasons why the metrosexual
technique tends to fail.
First, vanity is not pretty. Those
who are obsessed with personal appearance tend be deemed shallow
and self-centered. Women
want men with some depth and an ability to actually have an interest
in them. Metrosexual types tend to be perceived as self-absorbed
guys who are unlikely to be able to extend sufficient interest
in their partner. Being
shallow and narcissistic does not attract the ladies.
Second,
an excessive interest in personal opinion can be read as a sign
of insecurity. Women want
self-confident men who do not doubt themselves.
The metrosexual look does nothing but display a lack of
self-confidence to women. You
don’t want to be the man who was obviously concerned about picking
out the perfect shoes to go with your jacket.
Women don’t need another insecure girlfriend at their side.
They want someone with self-confidence who doesn’t feel
a need to hide behind designer threads and expensive haircuts.
Third,
a metrosexual approach to self risks disguising who you really
are. You can reduce yourself to being a living catalog
model by following the appearance and styling recommendations
of the so-called experts. When
you are done, you may look like you are ready for your photo shoot,
but nothing else about who you really are remains visible.
You, as a person, disappear into your carefully crafted
image.
Please
don’t consider these indicts of the metrosexual lifestyle as carte
blanche to disregard your personal appearance and hygiene.
That is definitely not the case.
Although you need not push things to an extreme that ends
with you going to bed wearing a facial mask, you do need to maintain
yourself in a manner women will find attractive.
This means embracing the basics.
Clean clothing in classic styles, free of stains and wrinkles
are always a good idea. Smelling
good and being freshly showered is always essential when trying
to make a great impression on a beautiful woman, too.
Although you don’t need to employ a team of stylists, you
should have a haircut that works for you and at least demonstrates
some level of concern for how you present yourself to others.
Unless you are growing a beard or moustache, you should
shave regularly, too. And
don’t forget to brush your teeth!
In
other words, traditional well-heeled male behavior is sufficient
to position you as a quality seducer.
You don’t need to be a magazine “cover boy.”
You only need to put your best foot forward.
A
comfortable man who is not “playing dress up” in an effort to
impress the ladies will always fare better than an overdone dandy
who is preoccupied with making sure his hair remains perfectly
coiffed. Women like self-confident
men who are willing to assert themselves in a respectful manner.
That message is probably best communicated by avoiding
too much of a focus on external beauty.